There is no fear in ; but casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made in . I John 4:18
We can profess we love people and our relationships are perfect, but in reality we aren't living out the principles of love. We are going through the motions. We are having social media, public relationships, but living private hells or in constant battlegrounds. What causes this? For one, we don't know what true Biblical love is. It's not based on a perfect scenario. And people doing what we want them to do at all times. Real love is a daily walk in patience, discipline, forgiveness, and compromise. In every relationship in our lives we will be challenged to "really love". We have confused control and momentary bliss for the realities of love. The realities don't have a picture perfect ending. It's not made of movie cliche`s we recite to one another. They may make us feel good, but it's not based on the truth. It's not about saying what we think people need or want to hear. I Corinthians 13:4-8 declares- Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.Love never fails.
This definition of love let's us know people will hurt us, betray us, we will want to hold onto anger and be right all the time, we may lie, and be out for self. The requirement is in spite of all of this- love. Love is beyond the hurt, mistakes, and betrayals. Fear of hurt, abandonment, and what other people think keep us from living out this love. I believe Biblical love is divinely given by God. There are some people we can't explain why we love them, we just do. It's not about deeds and expectations. It's about the interconnectedness we have one to another. Loving the way the Bible states takes guidance by the Spirit and a relationship with God. Only this flow with God can help you determine when relationships need to be endured or ended. It helps us to separate our emotions from facts, and lies from the truth. This kind of knowledge and insight can't be lived out in our own strength, because we will get tired, frustrated, and self-righteous.
So, the next time you think forgiving that person, trusting them in spite of prior hurt, hoping when it looks bleak, and staying when you want to leave is wrong. Then be wrong with God. Because if loving you is wrong, I don't want to be right!
Peace and Blessings