My Sister, Myself - I Need You To Survive!

Society has us living our lives with an unhealthy focus on self. But to be Godly empowered women, we must allow our focus outward as well. There is a time for self- reflection, healing, and revelation, but we must also think about others and how our lifestyle, choices, and attitude affects those around us. Especially our sisters. When we shift our perception toward our sisters, we realize that what we are currently going through and have been through in our past  is not so terrible.  We see there is hope for change, healing, and redemption. When we observe our sisters and then reach out to them, we learn love, compassion, and the beauty of the "woman bond". When we come together and can laugh, cry, uplift, and encourage each other, all of our lives are better. There is a knowing that is within that spirit place, which let's us know that they see and understand. In this place of sisterhood, there is strength, wisdom, testimonies, and revelation for what we need to make our lives work. When we deny this sacred place among ourselves, we deny a part of who we are. So, the next time you find yourself saying, "I don't like women", or "I don't trust women" realize what you're really saying is "I don't like myself" and "I don't trust myself". That's when you go inward for the healing you need from any hurt, betrayal, and offenses that you have encounter at the hands of another woman. But, there comes the time when we must reach out again, love again, and trust again because we are apart of each other and we need one another to survive. My sister, I Need You To Survive!

Who You Calling a B...?

Some women have allowed others to label and address them in ways that are not positive. We have used these terms among our girlfriends, family, friends, and in our relationships. But are these labels who we really are? I remember when I was younger my girlfriends and I addressed each other as the B word, until one day I realized, is this an affectionate term? Do they really mean this when they say it? and most of all is this who I am? I came to the conclusion that was not who I was nor what I wanted to be called. From that point on I let them know I would not be calling them by that word and I did not want them calling me it either. And they complied. There needs to be a self-reflection of how we see ourselves and then how we want others to see us. We don't need to tattoo it, say it, or make fun of it. We just need to stand in our integrity and be who we are and inform others to address us in the same manner. There's a time when we must put away childish things and walk in maturity of self and others. So next time someone calls you something other than the name on your birth certificate, stop and think, is this who I am today in this moment and is this who I want to be known and addressed by. If not, then find your voice and courage and be who God says you are- You are beautifully and wonderfully made, you are the head and not the tail, you are above only and not beneath, you are loved!

I Must!

Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the Lord unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the Lord of hosts.Zechariah 4:6

I started 2013 talking about, "I Can", "I Will", and now I will focus on I Must! As we shift our attention and intention to 2013, we need to make sure we have the drive and passion it takes to get things accomplished. We need the grit and determination to make our dreams reality and our purpose a done deal. How do we get the momentum and drive? First, by realizing what you are put on this earth to do. There is a plan for your life so find out what it is. Pray and ask God to reveal it to you and also look at what you're passionate about, what you like to do and pursue it. Become an expert on the topic by study and research. Second, get in the creative mindset. Allow that dream and purpose to spread its wings in the creative process. Get excited about what you are creating. Let the birthing process be fun, uplifting, and gratifying. Allow the hits and misses to fuel you to re-create on a greater scale. And lastly, create a cheer squad. Rally those you trust around you to keep you motivated and excited about what you are doing. Have positive people surround you with their love and encouragement. Allow the energy of well-wishes and love give you the fuel to complete your goals. And when you do, you will begin to live your purpose with satisfaction and joy. So, this year remember the mantra of  I Can, I Will, I Must! and watch everything you desire meet you at the point of your need.

I Will!

I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry,whether living in plenty or in want. Philippians 4:11-12

Last week we read about "I Can". This week, we will take a look at "I Will". In this first month of 2013, we have to align our thoughts with our purpose. We have to determine that whatever is thrown our way, we will accomplish what we were put on this earth to do. Setbacks need to viewed as setups, and closed doors as redirection to the right door. We have to learn the gift of contentment in this journey. So, that when we get to the tough spots, we can do whatever needs to be done and keep moving forward. We have to line our intentions with God's intentions for our lives and know that in the end, we win! How do we do this? Pray and meditate daily, study God's word, and study what it is you want to do. Become an expert on the subject so you can confidently be able to answer the questions, "What is your purpose?",  "What are your goals for 2013?", etc... Knowing that you are equipped for the moment when preparation meets opportunity. Learn from every obstacle, hard-ship, heartache, and loss. Knowing that these things are part of the journey as well as the joyous, peaceful, and fun times. When the voice and others says, "You can't", shout back with confidence and boldness- I WILL!

I Can

There are people who present a life with Christ by all the things you can't do. But, John 10:10 says, "I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly." When you choose to put God first and govern your life from His principles, you have a life that is moment by moment becoming balanced. It's a life that allows the freedom of choice, being fully aware that there are consequences to those choices. Its a life that gives you a road map to peace, love, strength, wisdom, and joy. But, they are only manifested when we align our will with His will for our lives. Then there is endless possibilities of what can happen. Will this life be perfect? No, but it will be bearable and you find yourself growing through the difficult times instead of allowing the tough places to lead you to hopelessness and torment. Do you dare to believe and trust God? In this first week of 2013, start this year believing and embracing all the "I can's" in Christ and witness the exceptional blessings and opportunities that will come your way! 
Happy New Year- ULM

Live to Give!

And when they were come into the house, they saw the young child with Mary his mother, and fell down, and worshiped him: and when they had opened their treasures, they presented unto him gifts; gold, and frankincense and myrrh. Matthew 2:11

During this holiday season remember the gift of giving. Take time to reach beyond yourself to others in need. This is a great time to re-connect with old friends and make new ones. Give love, service, joy, kindness, and forgiveness. Let this year be different than any other holiday season and allow the love of God to flow through you to bless and encourage others. Doing this won't break your budget, and your life may be changed forever. Just as the wise men gave gifts when they saw Jesus, you can give to others. And what you get in return is joy, peace, love and contentment. Merry Christmas!

I Gotcha!

Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ. 2 Corinthians 10:5

Have you ever been plagued with negative thoughts? When you're set to accomplish a goal or a new endeavor and the self-talk in your head is filled with "I can't because...", "I'm not good enough", "I'm too old", "I don't have enough money". We have to realize those thoughts are from a fear - based place. A place that wants to sabotage our dreams and hold us hostage to fear, doubt, shame, and hopelessness. We have to set our minds free of this self- talk. And how do we do this? We accomplish this with the Word of God! What does God say about my situation? What is His will for my life? We have to take our thoughts captive and speak the truth that God has revealed to us. We have to transform the "I can'ts" into "I will". So, the next time you are working on that dream, or faced with adversity, speak life over your situation and tell that thought, "I gotcha" and I'm casting you out and replacing you with positive thoughts that will motivate, inspire,and push me towards my destiny.